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Stress and Sex make Bad Bed-fellows

                          When you're stressed, sex is to be found nowhere on the mind. It just turns into another obligation of your life, another thing expected of you. Then there's the thought about the pain you feel, the lack of orgasms, the weight you've gained, the anger or resentment you feel... stress...stress...stress. Think for a moment about your typical day. At bedtime, your head spins thinking that the same routine will start all over again in a few hours - kids, the job, house chores, shopping, kitchen - and deep, aching concerns about your discontent with your Sex Life. Researches suggest that the fair gender experiences far more stress as compared to men. This is more so when they are full-time working mothers with small children. Many moms still take on the bulk of child-rearing responsibilities. Stress causes women to have far more interest in sleep than in sex and can actually slow down their ability to become aroused and reach orgasm - even if they have a desire for sex. On top of it, when they are disinterested in sex or non-responsive, it often puts stress on the relationship, creates guilt in the woman and only adds to her stress levels. When you're stressed, sex is to be found nowhere on the mind. It just turns into another obligation of your life, another thing expected of you. Then there's the thought about the pain you feel, the lack of orgasms, the weight you've gained, the anger or resentment you feel... stress...stress...stress. Often feeling so ashamed or alone that you are not even able to talk to your best girlfriend about your lack of desire or response. Even in a random phone survey conducted on 1,000 adults between the ages of 18 and 65 on what dampens their sexual desire the most, Stress came first, with 26 percent of those polled saying it was a major distraction in the bedroom. Kids followed, at 16 percent; work was next at 14 percent; health problems followed at 9 percent; boredom accounted for 7 percent; money problems made up 6 percent and inexperience was responsible for 3 percent. Factors affecting Sexual Life l You're restless; you race from one activity to another. l You're exhausted, yet sleepless. l You feel isolated, alone or depressed. l You're not eating nutritious diet. l You're resorting to so called "stress relieving" habits like smoking and drinking. l You don't take time out for yourself or you feel guilty when you do relax for a moment. l You don't exercise regularly. l You easily become frustrated and your temper shows. l You can't relax enough to become aroused, even when your partner is supportive. Here we mention some tips that can assist you in taking control of your sexual life by managing your stress. Learning to deal with stress is not the panacea, the miracle cure. But it certainly is a good first step. Give Priority to Relationship This means actually setting aside time to be intimate with your partner, either emotionally or physically. It may mean getting a babysitter once a week for a date-night, or something as simple as turning off the TV after the kids are asleep in order to spend some time chatting or cuddling. Whether your time together leads to greater emotional or physical intimacy, it is really important to take time out from work and parenting to connect with one another as a couple. If being intimate at bedtime is impossible, try a few minutes in the morning. Sex can also be a great stress reliever and you may have a nice glow the rest of the day! Saying "NO" is an art If you're the one who feels obligated to join every committee or contribute to every project, step away from the guilt and ask “Do I really want to do this?” Or “Am I just doing it for the sake of doing so”. You can say NO! There is such a thing as manageable stress! Converse with your Partner Your partner probably understands the stress you're under. Talking with him/her can help both of you rearrange your priorities. It is crucial for you and your partner to understand the importance of support and sharing domestic duties. Let him take the kids for outing while you take time to read or have him vacuum while you try that new yoga exercise. You both will benefit. Always find time for "Yourself" Take time out for yourself. If you can clear just an hour or two from your weekly schedule to do something for yourself, you are on the way to recovering the sexual being within who's been hidden away. Do something strictly for yourself - it can be as simple as taking a class or enjoying a cup of tea in the afternoon or reading a book.




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